The Emotional Toll of Finding Care

Guilt, Worry & How to Cope

Finding the right care for a loved one is not just a practical challenge—it’s an emotional one. Many family carers struggle with feelings of guilt, worry, and even grief as they navigate the difficult process of arranging support. If you’re feeling overwhelmed, you’re not alone.

Understanding these emotions and learning how to manage them can make a significant difference in your well-being.

Why Does Finding Care Feel So Difficult?

Making decisions about a loved one’s care often comes with a mix of emotions:

• Guilt: Many carers feel guilty for not being able to provide care themselves or worry that they’re ‘giving up’ on their loved one.

• Worry & Anxiety: Questions like ‘Am I making the right decision?’ or ‘Will they be well cared for?’ can be overwhelming and fear of the unknown, the 'What if's' that prey on your mind.

• Grief & Loss: The shift from independent living to requiring care can bring a sense of loss—for both the person receiving care and their family.

• Exhaustion: It isn't unusual for you to be trying to balance the stress of navigating care options with other responsibilities, this can take a huge physical and emotional toll.

  
  

How to Cope with These Emotions

While these feelings are natural, there are ways to ease the emotional burden:

1. Acknowledge Your Feelings: It’s okay to feel conflicted. Accepting your emotions rather than suppressing them can help you process them more effectively.

2. Educate Yourself: Learning about care options, funding, and support services can give you confidence in your decision-making.

3. Seek Support: Talk to friends, family, or a professional who understands the challenges of caregiving.

4. Remember You’re Doing Your Best: You’re making the best decision you can with the information and resources available to you.

5. Take Care of Yourself: Ensuring you look after your own well-being will help you continue to support your loved one effectively.

   
   

Finding the Right Support

You don’t have to do this alone. Care. Choice. Connect can help guide you through the process, and find the right care and support.